My Story...Pregnancy and Infant Loss

My Story...Pregnancy and Infant Loss

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.  August and December are two of the toughest months of the year for me. These months are the toughest because these are the months two of my sons became angels.
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Yes, unfortunately, I am counted in the statistics of infant loss. Please bear with me as I write this. Fifteen years ago, I was ecstatic to hear I was pregnant with my second child, only to hear a few months later my little angel was exhibiting signs of hardship and was probably going to die shortly after birth. As a person of faith, I prayed and hoped what I was hearing was untrue. I continued to carry my angel, but a few hours after birth he died. It was one of the toughest moments of my life. Of course, I went thru sadness and loss; honestly, it was rough.

Pregnant with my second son.

I got up the courage to do it again. So, nine months later I got pregnant again. I was ecstatic and looking forward to a new chapter. I went to my first doctor’s appointment, and everything looked great. A few appointments later, the nightmare happened again. I was told again, there was an issue with the pregnancy. A few months later, I gave birth, and my little angel died a few hours later. I say all this to say, be kind to people.
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You never know what experiences, a person may have gone through. Please never ask a woman when you are going to have another child. You may be talking to someone like me.

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After reading this, you may be wondering how you can support the people in your life who have experienced this. 

• I would say just let them know you love them.  Those simple words have tremendous impact. 
• Send a card
• Don't ignore them as if nothing has happen.  Something big has happen!  If if you don't know what to say, just say I don't know what to say, but I want you to know I'm here to support you.

​Please know this is one of the most difficult times for both Moms and Dad and having the support of friends and family will make a world of difference.